Tamika Posted November 4, 2017 Share Posted November 4, 2017 While she appreciated the skill involved with the painting and modelling she just didn’t like it and said it was sad that grown men still played with toys. She felt they were just clinging on to childhood games and doesn’t want anything to do with such people. Was tough to hear although I don’t play a lot I am just a painter modeller I don’t know really how to approach the subject anymore. I thought it was going to make her more open to it but it seemed to do that opposite. She liked the food and drink at Bugman’s though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
helterskelter Posted November 4, 2017 Share Posted November 4, 2017 She could always get the tram into the city next time you go? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steel Company Posted November 4, 2017 Share Posted November 4, 2017 I know the feeling, when I was in the UK on a business trip I made a point of going there, with my wife in tow, she too holds much the same thoughts as hours. That being said she lets me gave my hobby, provided I keep my expenditures to a minimum. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sonoftherubric21 Posted November 4, 2017 Share Posted November 4, 2017 Its times like this I am thankful that my significant other is a massive gamer herself. No guilt trips involved. If they actually do love you they will accept it as a hobby of yours and it shouldn't really effect your relationship at all. Sorry to hear gents. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steel Company Posted November 4, 2017 Share Posted November 4, 2017 Its times like this I am thankful that my significant other is a massive gamer herself. No guilt trips involved. If they actually do love you they will accept it as a hobby of yours and it shouldn't really effect your relationship at all. Sorry to hear gents. To be fair we have a happy medium, so long as the Kids are taken care of first, house needs and each other, what we do on alternating months where we've got spare funds the other does not say boo. I don't begrudge her plastic crack (Tupperware) as she does not mine (plastic army men). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tamika Posted November 4, 2017 Author Share Posted November 4, 2017 It’s something I got into after we got married, that’s why she isn’t happy about it. I envy you all with partners who accept it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KJB Posted November 4, 2017 Share Posted November 4, 2017 Hah, my other half just sat in Bugmans and had a few drinks. She’s fine with me being into the hobby, she just hates it when I ask her to go into the local GW store to pick something up for me - “Why does nobody use deodorant?” is the most common complaint. “Why is there always someone creepy with a beard, shoulting that he’s an Ork?” is another... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deathspectersgt7 Posted November 4, 2017 Share Posted November 4, 2017 Hah, my other half just sat in Bugmans and had a few drinks. She’s fine with me being into the hobby, she just hates it when I ask her to go into the local GW store to pick something up for me - “Why does nobody use deodorant?” is the most common complaint. “Why is there always someone creepy with a beard, shoulting that he’s an Ork?” is another... Or why are they staring at me like that mine would ask. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sete Posted November 4, 2017 Share Posted November 4, 2017 Just ignore it. I also think it's sad to watch reality shows like kardashians or whatever garbage is in channel 4, but to each their own. Just keep enjoying YOUR hobby. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NiceGuyAdi Posted November 4, 2017 Share Posted November 4, 2017 The difference between men and boys is the price of their toys. I’ve got a couple of mates who love their cars (as do I but I can’t afford to indulge) with wives not too impressed at dropping £15,000 on a less practical car with higher running costs than the last one because he thinks it’s more exciting, instead of spending that money on the home/family. She doesn’t need to love your hobby like you do; mine doesn’t. The important thing is that it’s not conflicting with your time together. And my hobbying has actually increased the time I spend with my wife. I used to spend a lot of time playing video games in the next room with headphones on. Now I’m in the same room modelling/painting/talking to her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lysimachus Posted November 4, 2017 Share Posted November 4, 2017 My wife isn't into the hobby in any way, but she's ok with me doing it. After all, there are worse things she could have to put up with. Remind your missus that when you're at home painting/modelling, you're not going out drinking or partying with mates, not spending hours watching football or playing golf or whatever else you might be into. As others have said, if nothing else it probably means you're spending more time together... as long as you don't ignore her when she talks to you. That's a bad idea. :P Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
okonomiyakimarine Posted November 4, 2017 Share Posted November 4, 2017 I only got back in the hobby a few years into marriage, too. After leaving plastic behind around 15… So now in my thirties (with wife and kid) I picked that up again. Every time an order comes in I get this look. When I say i need to carve out time for a longer painting session it is obviously the same. But she is not really 'against the hobby'. How could she, apparently it is fun and relaxing for me to build and paint. Of course it has to do with reconnecting with something from our youth, and why not? Does it make you childish? Taking up so many new responsibilities we leave behind so many interest. To me it also has to do with work-life-balance. Also: Did she ever disapprove the hobby before or only after seeing warhammer world? Don't make her think she has to share your interest. Maybe she felt pushed into liking it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WarriorFish Posted November 4, 2017 Share Posted November 4, 2017 I'm not sure why it matters, as mentioned she doesn't need to partake (or comment) if she's not interested. I'm sure she has a fabulous shoe collection or something else you're equally uninterested in, but it still works Failing that; models are forever but thanks to King Henry VIII you can always get a new wife Just don't chop her head off, as much as it may please Khorne Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Indefragable Posted November 4, 2017 Share Posted November 4, 2017 My wife doesn't judge me about it, but the eyebrow does go up time to time. The most enjoyment she personally gets out of it is helping me put unused stuff on eBay :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brother Sefiel Posted November 4, 2017 Share Posted November 4, 2017 GreetingsTo be fair, I can see her point. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xwingt65 Posted November 4, 2017 Share Posted November 4, 2017 What is wrong playing with toys and having a hobby? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stoic Raptor Posted November 5, 2017 Share Posted November 5, 2017 I find that people who are most judgmental about this sort of thing, tend to have the most superficial interests. Or they're armchair sports fans who derive vicarious masculinity through the athletic achievements of someone else. :D This is at least a hobby that's creative, non-passive, and social. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slave to Darkness Posted November 5, 2017 Share Posted November 5, 2017 Reading stuff like this makes me appreciate the fact I am single. :lol: I do miss cuddles though. :( GreetingsTo be fair, I can see her point. You like the food in Bugmans as well then? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demus Ragnok Posted November 5, 2017 Share Posted November 5, 2017 It’s a part of who you are. SHE needs to come to terms with that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frater Cornelius Posted November 5, 2017 Share Posted November 5, 2017 Isn't a spouse supposed to be supportive and willing to make compromises as opposed to judging a relatively harmless hobby? Maybe I am a bit too young to understand, but something like this makes me raise an eyebrow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kisada Posted November 5, 2017 Share Posted November 5, 2017 There are far worse hobbies a grown man could be into lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slave to Darkness Posted November 5, 2017 Share Posted November 5, 2017 There are far worse hobbies a grown man could be into lol Whats wrong with My Little Pony?? Huh huh?? Grrrrrr Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tamika Posted November 5, 2017 Author Share Posted November 5, 2017 Yeah the issue isn’t me trying to get her ‘in’ to the hobby, it’s that I spend any of my waking time on it at all. She doesn’t want me to go out and play a game ever now. She didn’t marry the kind of person that plays video games and has these kind of hobbies she says. I don’t play computer games at all anyway, this was my release and it’s now haram. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slave to Darkness Posted November 5, 2017 Share Posted November 5, 2017 Jeez thats harsh. Sorry to hear that mate. But you didnt marry someone who looks down on people who have hobbies did you? Start a Black Metal band and practice at your place, she will beg you to get your toys out then. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyberos the Red Wake Posted November 5, 2017 Share Posted November 5, 2017 Yeah the issue isn’t me trying to get her ‘in’ to the hobby, it’s that I spend any of my waking time on it at all. She doesn’t want me to go out and play a game ever now. She didn’t marry the kind of person that plays video games and has these kind of hobbies she says. I don’t play computer games at all anyway, this was my release and it’s now haram. That's pretty messed up of her, but that's none of my business. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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